Lush Lunes: Believe in yourself

It's Monday, which means that once again, we have something to celebrate: LushLunes. 

I recently posted about negative internal dialogue (and for us crazies) external dialogue. You know it, and I know- we are our worst critics. 

After reading this book Scott Sedita's Guide to Making It in Hollywood, I came across some really positive stuff that I wanted to share with you as part of a simple yet huge way to make this Monday suck less. 

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Wordless Wednesday: Conquer The Obstacles

On the Runway #NYFW

If you follow my tweets, you already know I was out and about during fashion week. There was lots of viewing and schmoozing, which was not easy - except when I met uber sweet designers, then it was fabulous (I will tell you more about my new fave designer Suzie Turner real soon)!

Image of My Sister!

I got into so many fab places and events, courtesy of my sister over at The Sweet Life of J and E who was constantly being pulled aside by the photographers and being asked "who are you wearing?!" She'd better get use to that!!! 

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Lush Lunes - Spice Up Your Day

Today being President's day, many of us are off from work. So take advantage of today. Now of course, I've got all of this exciting cleaning planned, but that's not a way to make this Monday a Lush Lunes. A broom and a mop do not spell "Lush" or "Me Time."

Click HERE for some LushLunes background to understand what I mean.

Here's your LUSH LUNES ASSIGNMENT:

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Neither Hot Nor Bothered

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I’ve read several articles (in fashion magazines - not medical journals) where the women interviewed gave the impression that a sexless relationship was not only normal, but that it could work. I call a coughing fit of bullshit on that one.

In an issue of Elle magazine, the following was the tale of one woman interviewed:

“Sometime during their second year together, [she] realized they hadn’t had sex in a month. She was shocked. “Then it became three months,” she says. “By year seven, it was, Whoa, we haven’t had sex this year.” …[yet] She insists that while her marriage isn’t perfect, it’s happy, stable, loving, and fun—without sex.”

Now forgive me, but in my mind, if a relationship is lacking in the sex department and no one is trying to fix that, something is wrong. Or as my Tia might say, "somebody’s gettin’ it somewhere else." 

Before I go on, please note that there are various factors involved when it comes to a couples bedroom, so I’m not talking about a situation where the dry spell is temporary or where your partner is ill (because that changes the dynamics of a relationship on a level that I would have no business discussing)… This post is very specific to a young healthy couple making the statement that "no sex is the norm and that’s ok."

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Ask And You Shall Recieve

When I was a teenager, a part of me must have been trying to reveal my desire to become an actress and to perform. I was walking through Times Square and I said out loud to my friend,"one day I will be on a billboard." I didn't know why I said that, or how that could ever happen, but I just thought it would be true. 

Deepak Chopra Calendar

About five years later it happened.

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Wordless Wednesday: Embarking on the Journey

Happy Valentine's Day!

Wishing you a day full of love and moments that make your heart swell with happiness. 

Indulge in all the little things that make you feel loved. Let others remember how much you love them. 

You don't need money, flash or lots of things to express that love. Something as small as an act of kindness will suffice. Just come from your heart and you can't go wrong. 

Enjoy el Día de San Valentín, my deep thinkers!! And spread the love.

My Schmoozing Aha Moment

You may remember that last week I had my aha moment when it came to networking (in case you missed it, here's a refresher).

The bulbs in the ceiling of the The Roof Club at the Gramercy Park Hotel

I tried to remember the lessons I learned that day, before my next event, the "I heart NYC Meetup,"  hosted by Travelzoo at this posh little wine and bar lounge called SD26 (special thanks to @nycpatty for the invite).

While I was thinking about how to be more comfortable in these types of social situations, as the Universe would have it, I stumbled across this article in Success Magazine, that said:

"start with affirmations like, 'I'm ...awesome...I know I can do this....' The bottom line is there is a much bigger person inside of you than you give yourself credit for. When you learn to master your little voice, the big, bold, powerful, rich you will emerge. It is your destiny. Now be awesome!" 

from "Its All in Your Head," by Blair Singer.

Amen to that!! So I wrote a little note to myself with a few affirmations on my wonderfulness (and kept that in my pocket). With my swagger in check I got another opportunity to try my hand at networking. 

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#LushLunes: Love Yourself

LushLunes gives us something to look forward to on Mondays.  Click here for our history with LushLunes. 

The LushLunes mission  can be anything from a contemplative assignment to an actual mission. Today's LUSH LUNES ASSIGNMENT is in honor of this loving holiday: 

El Día de San Valentín.

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Wordless Wednesday: Now Pass the Cocoa

I'm Kind Of A Big Deal (in my mind)

I am quite the talker. Seriously. And I'm obnoxiously loud. I kid you not. But I only get to act like myself when, 1) I know you , 2) I feel comfortable around you, or 3) I've had a few cocktails.

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Obviously, this becomes a problem when I'm "networking," because my level of comfort goes to zilch and I become a wallflower. No one knows me, so I'm uncomfortable, and if I'm not drinking, well I become a little shadow. And yet, I throw myself into these situations regardless.

When I read the book Guerilla Networking the author said, you don't need to work hard to meet people. Just become the person people want to meet. Um. Ok. Sounds kinda obvious right? Do something cool or amazing, or present yourself in an interesting way so that people want to learn more about you and don't forget your name. psht. I totally got it. Except that I haven't done that.

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#LushLunes: What Is Your Word?

LushLunes is a way to celebrate ourselves on the suckiest day of the week: Monday.  It gives us something to look forward to and give a nice kick start to the work week. Click here for a little  LushLunes background. 

The LushLunes mission changes every week and this week I was inspired, once again by Eat Pray Love. 

When I visited the website, a question from the book and movie was dead center:

What is your word?

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Be Polite With Yourself

I was lying in bed thinking about 100 things that need to get done, which I cannot do because I am sick. Then I start having the internal dialogue: 

Don't worry about it; just rest; there's nothing you can do now; stay in the present moment; why can't I just sleep; blah blah blah ...

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until I work myself up to the point of worry at which I started, and get out of bed at 4:00am to do work. As I drag my sorry ass to the computer, I then yell at myself "what are you doing?!" 

Then I sulk, I talk myself back into bed, and yell at myself for not allowing my body to rest. This yelling and mini-war is inside my head. Not that I don't talk to myself and answer myself out loud most of the time, because let me tell you, crazo over here certainly does that. 

But not last night. All my fussing was inside. And inside my brain it was very noisy. It reminded me of this Seinfeld episode where Elaine is stuck on the train and tries to will it to move forward:

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Aviesta GIVEAWAY - Winner!

Last week I invited my readers to answer one question: 

Who is your favorite handbag designer?

Click Here to read the entire Sponsored Post on the Aviesta members-only shopping site.

Thanks so much to all of you who participated. Every comment made me smile. It really did. 

Well,  one of you fabulous deep thinkers answered the question in a comment and a winner has been chosen for the $25 credit on  Aviesta!

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