Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Knowledge is Power. #Bedsider

I don’t know if it’s biological or just that I notice it more, but there’s a lot of coupling by the time winter is here, such that everyone is expecting by Spring.  Everyone except me of course. 

I love kids, but I’m not ready to have babies yet. If it happens, so be it, but I’m doing what I can to make sure it’s a timely event. And what I mean by “timely” is that I would like to be married first, because that’s just what I envision for myself – even if it ends up being a shot-gun wedding (Che is aware of this shot-gun wedding mandate should a baby Che come unexpectedly). Basically, I’m in no rush right now. 

Che already has two awesome children and I don’t feel like my window of opportunity is closing just yet. Especially since I’m making a lot of changes in my life right now that will be a little difficult to execute with a new baby –not impossible, but not easy. 

Which makes me wonder sometimes if any of my cousins took precautions in their 20's? Or if they were aware of the options at their disposal? I don’t know. All of my cousins have kids - and that is truly a wonderful thing... I just wonder about the timing. Was it just fate? Was it just unrestrained passion?  Or was it that they weren’t armed with knowledge?

This is a great video from Bedsider of what unrestrained passion looks like. LOL


I asked my mom why she was so different than the rest of her siblings, and in turn, why my sister and I have turned out so different from everyone else in the family (my mom is the only one who’s not a grandma). She really didn’t know why. And even though she’s currently itching for some grandkids, she’s happy that it didn’t happen prematurely. Maybe it was just that we abstained until we were mature enough… or maybe we just armed ourselves with knowledge.  

I remember her “talk” when I asked her about sex: “it’s for people who love each other enough to be married and who are ready to have kids together. Now let’s set the table.”  

And I set the table. Ya se acabo. It’s not a topic I can just discuss with my Puerto Rican mom, who had two kids and no more because “God didn’t bless [her] with anymore.”  Clearly my birth-control “knowledge” came from asking my doctor 100 questions. Which is preferable, because I think it’s hard for parents to discuss sex with their kids, even if they’re already in their twenties… even when they’re already parents themselves. 

Which is why I think it’s great that The Ad Council is focused on getting sexually active women to learn all about birth control methods, how they can get it for free, and help them stick with it. 

 “This breakthrough ad campaign uses identifiable humor to empower young women to find the birth control method that is best for them. It’s a public health effort that has the potential to benefit many, many young women.” 

-Peggy Conlon, President and CEO of The Ad Council

Bedsider is an online resource for women to go to explore, compare and contrast all available methods of contraception. They’ve got some funny (yet informative videos), we can set up birth control and appointment reminders, and debunk any myths about birth control that may be floating around. I really enjoyed browsing through the site, and checking out the interesting articles and videos. 

So head on over to Bedsider (or via facebook and twitter) to see for yourself… and if you know anyone that is interested in learning more about how to protect themselves from being parents before they are ready, well send them on over so they can be armed with information …this winter. ;-)


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  1. I think it's awesome that you are writing about this! It's so important for Latinas to learn about the options they have! I work at a Hospital with a predominant Latino population and I am always surprised at how little some Latinas know about birth control.

  2. Important blog post. Thanks for sharing, Li.

  3. Thank you for posting this. I didn't learn about birth control until I was 19 and in a real relationship. I was so ignorant and wish there had been more content on the internet like this. This was back in 1996. LOL!

  4. What a great resource for women! Sometimes women find it uncomfortable to ask their doctor the pros and cons of birth control. This website is a great resource!

  5. I agree with you that knowledge is everything. But I do have to admit that I had some very honest parents not afraid to share with me the good, the bad, and the ugly when I asked them about sex (when I was young). Unfortunately not may kids/teens are as fortunate, so that is when information like this comes in handy.

  6. Great spin on birth control and coupling during winter! I also understand how "the talk" went down. I don't even think I had the talk. Again, great and informative post! Will stumble it as well :-)

  7. Great post! You will know when you are ready...


  8. Fantastic post, Li. Love how you got personal with this subject, yet informed us about a very important tool. Latna moms do have a hard time having the sex talk. Don't remember ever having one with my mom. She would have definitely preferred to send me a link to Bedsider if it would have been available bavk then!

  9. I relate to everything you said: I don't have children b.c I chose to focus on my education, career, and ambition. These things built my self-worth, self-esteem, and dignity, along with a strong family and faith. Although I don't think women these days will "wait" until they get married to have sex and kids and don't have to, my message is: know who you are and what you want before you are in a relationship and/or have sex, then be informed about the consequences and the measures you can take to reach your goal. Self-define!


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