And according to society and cultural norms for Latinas, at thirty, I should be married and having babies. What?! That's too soon!
I'm not married.
I have no babies.
Have I failed?
I dont know. According to older relatives and younger friends who are already bound to a marital contract or are wiping bottoms, the subject ALWAYS comes up. "Don't you want to settle down?" "Don't you wana wid-doo baby?"
I have no plans to be married yet and am certainly not planning to have babies any time soon.
And why not? Because I'm happy just the way I am. I'm very busy overhauling my life and career and think that I'm in a really selfish place. I think the only real need I would have to be married is if I wanted to have babies.
And I can't even take care of plants.
I'm in a really great relationship but I think that whole part of my life can wait. But for how long? And will nature be kind to me if I do?
There have been many times where I've been around women who were ready for a family whether they had partners or not. I knew one woman who was baby crazy. What is baby crazy? Ju-do-no?
Baby crazy: you're single and you're with your single friend at an all inclusive resort on a tropical island full of resort-loving gorgeous single people and you both go to the bar to get a drink, but on the way there she stops dead in her tracks at the sole family on vacation to ooh and aah at a little chubby baby sitting in his mothers lap. [Tick ,Tock. Tick, Tock.] That - to me - is baby crazy.
Is that madness going to happen to me? Is it already happening?
Women get a raw deal. Especially Latinas. We have to be super mujeres [super women] and get the degrees, the career, the house, the car, get a man that also has all his ducks in a row, settle down, have a church-load of kids and juggle it all while looking like the sultry villain in a novela [soap opera].
And it's all supposed to happen before you're THIRTY. Or else you're jamona. [an old maid].
We have this small window of time to procreate before we miss the boat. At this point in my life, I don't want to miss any boats but I don't want to get on any right now either.
I'd just like to take a flight there when I'm ready.
What do you think?